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| Worth [Creating a Healthy Family, Chapter 6]: The Self-Worth Myth |
Page 4 of 18 |
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Unfortunately, we will never be able to come to a true sense of worth
by looking within. Self-worth and self-esteem are misnomers in the
human search for significance. Establishing one’s own sense of worth
is philosophically and psychologically impossible, unless, of
course, one deludes oneself.
Imagine a sane person saying to herself insanely, "I am a worthwhile individual because I am rich and beautiful." Instead of looking in the mirror what if the
person examined her own conscience. Looking into the mirror |
of the conscience, the person’s inner sense of right and wrong might reveal deep flaws of character or feelings of guilt from past failures. This would lead again to a sense of worthlessness. What measure do we use to set the standard for
worth or non-worth? For each good deed or success we stack up on one
side of the balance, what bad deed or failure drops in the other
side to cancel it out? Self-worth, or the feeling of worth we have
about ourselves is not really derived from us, but is actually
based upon how we perceive others value us. We need a source and a
standard beyond ourselves to discover our worth, and that source
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